I was a massive fun of House when it first came out
It lead me to have a crush on Hugh Laurie (who knew?!)
My favourite thing about him was his attitude about people…
Cynical and honest. His view is simple:
“Everybody lies”
And yes. We do.
Whether you lie to other people or not is your business
But I guarantee that you lie to yourself.
We make excuses to ourselves all the time.
When it comes to weight loss this is the nail in the coffin.
Excuses are lies that we tell ourselves about things we don’t want to do.
It is more comfortable to lie to yourself about why you’re not losing weight than it is to face reality.
And the harsh reality is this
IF YOU ARE NOT WILLING TO MAKE CHANGES, GET COMFORTABLE WITH YOUR CURRENT SITUATION.
Change is hard and making excuses makes it so much easier.
And it usually happens when we’re not prepared to make the sacrifice.
“I can’t eat anything healthy for lunch because I don’t have time to make it in the morning”
Truth: you can get up 10 minutes earlier
“I’m too busy to make it to the gym”
Truth: you can workout from home
“I have a sugar addiction, I can’t help myself”
Truth: if that is the case, there are professionals out there that can help you.
In all of these examples we are telling ourselves flat out that the healthy behaviour is impossible.
We’re making excuses before we even begin because we are unwilling to make the change.
And if you want results, that’s not acceptable.
If you’ve never lost weight before get prepared for a long road ahead;
It’s hard work and it’s sacrifice
It’s waking up early to go to the gym before work, or going straight there afterwards before going home
It’s giving up the binge drinking happy hour every Saturday night
Not having biscuits with your tea
Learning to cook and changing your shopping list
Discovering new foods while giving up ones that aren’t healthy.
I truly believe that
Until you can accept this. you will always look for the easiest route
And you will always talk yourself out of progress.
This cycle is exhausting and you genuinely feel that you’re trying, when really, all your energy is spent making excuses.
Why am I telling you this?
I hate excuses.
And I spent years making them myself. I still do sometimes. I’m not perfect.
And it’s not about being perfect, it’s about being honest.
One way to do this is to use the strategy I use with my clients;
Yes or No. Not maybe.
Did you do your workout?
Did you follow your eating plan?
Did you make good choices this week?
No such thing as “No but…”
“I was going to and then…”
I get it. Life gets in the way
And it’s exam time just now.
Your energy is needed elsewhere when you’re busy, and that’s fine, as long as you’re ok with your progress stalling.
“No, I didn’t eat well this week, I’m stressed and I find it difficult. This week I will focus on looking after myself mentally and physically and if I don’t lose weight, that’s ok.”
That’s an example of taking your situation and making the best of it.
Because we don’t always have good weeks.
We can’t always be on it 100%.
But pretending like you’re trying when you’re not will only leave you feeling like a failure.
Embarrassed
Ashamed
Stressed
Fatigued
Irritatied
Impatient
Suddenly you feel that you just can’t lose weight
That’s it. Weight loss isn’t for you.
It will never happen.
And if you believe that, then nothing will happen.
If you want to be successful take the Yes or No approach.
Do I want to lose weight?
Am I trying hard enough?
Am I making excuses and sabotaging my results?
Do I comfort eat?
Could I make time to exercise but just avoid it instead?
Do I need help?
Answer those honestly.
Reduce the stress in your life by being honest.
Not everyone is ready to lose weight and that’s ok.
But don’t make excuses and expect results.
Ainzlie
P.s If you’re ready to make the sacrifice and you need a helping hand, you know where to find me.
P.p.s If you’re still making those excuses, ask yourself “Am I ready to lose weight”, if the answer isn’t yes… It’s a no.
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