So, you may wonder what this has to do with health and nutrition and fitness? Stick with me here.
Unwanted information
It seems that merely existing online as someone who identifies as a woman puts you at risk of receiving an unsolicited d**k pic. I am sure this also happens to men but I have no experience of that.
So, you ask again, what does this have to do with health? Well, I want to draw attention to other times when we receive this kind of approach in life – specifically being given information that really, is unwanted.
And this happens SO much when it comes to health and fitness. And often it starts like this:
Person A: “I am thinking about improving myself in *this way*”
Person B: “Well, what you wanna do is…”
Me: *rolling my eyes and biting my tongue*
Person B might as well get their metaphorical penis out and just wave it in your face.
“THIS IS MY OPINION AND I AM CORRECT”
How to deal with these people
Firstly, let’s assume that they are well meaning and want to give you their opinion because they believe that they have found the secret shortcut to health/weight loss/fitness/whatever.
In this instance, you could be harsh and simply look at them and reply with:
“Yeah….no, not gonna do that”
Or, you could be kind and say
“Thanks, I’ll look into that”
Now, you’re an adult and I’m sure that you didn’t need me to tell you that, however sometimes when we’re faced with someone who claims to know the answers to everything it’s easy to get sucked into whatever they’re selling – be it a product or simply an opinion.
And I’m simply here to remind you that, as Fleetwood Mac told us, you can go your own way.
This advice from person B might lead you to go into a direction that might not work for you. By all means, do your research, find out more about what person B recommends – but do not assume that because this person looks the way you’d like to look or does the things you’d like to do that what they do is safe for you.
But Ainzlie, don’t you tell people what to do?
The answer is no. I don’t tell people what to do.
I will advise people on what I believe is the best path for them based on the information they give me, but it is YOUR choice whether you act on it or not.
The best way to help someone to change is not to tell them what to do, but to teach them what works for their body, their situation and their abilities.
So, if you’d like to improve on what you have and what you are, consider – do you want person B to TELL you what you need, or do you want someone like me to show you?
Think on that?
Ainzlie
p.s – I’m taking online nutrition clients at the moment, if you’d like to learn more about how to develop healthy habits that lead to long lasting change, find out more here.
